“Forgiveness is the most powerful thing that you can do for your physiology and your spirituality. Yet, it remains one of the least attractive things to us, largely because our egos rule so unequivocally. To forgive is somehow associated with saying that it is all right, that we accept the evil deed. But this is not forgiveness. Forgiveness means that you fill yourself with love and you radiate that love outward and refuse to hang onto the venom or hatred that was engendered by the behaviors that caused the wounds.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Here are 5 good reasons why you should let go of resentments and allow forgiveness to bring peace and love back into your heart:
1. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself
“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” ~ Maya Angelou
Your mind might try to convince you that forgiveness is “letting someone off the hook,” and that you are in fact doing those who mistreated you a favor by forgiving them, but the truth of the matter is that you are doing yourself a favor.
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself, to be at peace, to be happy and to be able to sleep at night. You’re not doing this for them, you’re doing it for yourself, to set yourself free from the feelings of hurt, anger, and helplessness that kept both of you attached for so long, and to be at peace.
2. Forgiveness is an act of strength
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute if the strong.” ~ Gandhi
Contrary to what you have been led to believe, forgiveness is an act of strength. You don’t forgive because you are weak, but because you are strong enough to realize that only by letting go of resentments you will be happy and at peace.
3. Forgiveness is a sign of self-love
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love yourself enough to let go of all the toxicity from your life and free yourself from all the anger, bitterness and resentments. If you’re mad, be mad. Don’t hide and suppress your feelings. Let it all out, but once you’re done with being mad, allow forgiveness to enter your heart. Let go and love! 🙂
4. When you forgive, you find peace
“If you let go a little you will have a little peace; if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace; if you let go completely you will have complete peace.”~ Ajahn Chah
Peace of mind is what you find the moment you let go of any grudges and any resentments you might be holding on to. The moment you say to yourself: “It is time to let go, it is time to forgive”, that will be the moment you will find peace.
5. If you forgive, you will be forgiven
“In this world, you are given as you give. And you are forgiven as you forgive. While you go your way through each lovely day, you create your future as you live.” ~ Peace Pilgrim
In life, we get what we give, and we reap what we sow. And since we’re all humans, and we all make mistakes, the more we forgive others for the past, present and future mistakes, the more others will forgive us when we will make mistakes. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
~love, Luminita 💫
** When was the last time you truly, deeply forgave someone? It can be someone in your past or present, or it can even be you. You can share your comment in the comment section below 🙂
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If one looks around the world of today then the one thing that one will find most common among people and nations is the lack of tolerance, which then breeds their hatred towards each other. This hatred then takes the shape of violence and terrorism, thus, people whether for their rights or for keeping others subjugated are fighting with each other.
Thus, the one thing, which the world at present needs is the incorporation and promotion of the spirit of forgiveness among people and nations. It is by forgiving that people will be able to move on and make the world a better place for living. If there is no forgiveness then sadly the world will stay in the same plight and even get worse with the passage of time. The lines below discuss the message of forgiveness given by Islam in Quran.
Forgiveness As A Quality Of Allah:
Perhaps the biggest reason why a Muslim must adopt forgiveness and forgive people even if he or she is right in taking the revenge is the fact that forgiveness is one of the qualities of Allah Almighty. In Quran, there are numerous qualities of Allah Almigthy are mentioned and forgiveness is one of the dominant one of them. The different names that are used for Allah in Quran that represent His forgiving quality are as follows:
Al-Ghafur –The name ‘Al-Ghafur’ is used more than 70 times in Quran to describe the quality of Allah Almighty. This word can be interpreted as ‘to cover’, ‘to excuse’, ‘to pardon’. All of these words represent forgiveness in one way or another. Thus, Al-Ghafur shows one variation of forgiving quality of Allah Almighty.
Al-Afuw – Al-Afuw is another word that tells the quality of Allah Almighty and it appears a total of five times in Quran. Its meanings are that of ‘to remit’, ‘to release’, and ‘to heal’. All these meanings show that Allah Almighty releases human beings from the burden of their sins by forgiving them. Thus, the word Al-Afuw also represents the quality of forgiveness of Allah Almighty.
Al-Haleem – The word Al-Haleem is used 15 times in Quran for describing Allah Almighty. This word means ‘forbearing’, ‘clement’, ‘lenient’ and ‘mild’. It goes on to show that Allah Almighty is not quick to judge His subjects, rather He is lenient and tries to be mild when it comes to taking a decision against humans or when holding them accountable for something.
Al-Rahman And Al-Rahim – These are most common two names which Muslims use for Allah. Al-Rahman refers to the abundance of mercy of Allah and Al-Rahim refers to the consistency and always presence of the mercy. The former is used 57 times while the latter is used 115 times in Quran to describe Allah the Great.
All these and many more names of Allah shows that His mercy and forgiveness outweighs any of the qualities of wrath and anger that are associated with Him. Therefore, a true believer who believes in Allah Almighty should be quick to understand that if Allah being the Lord of this world can forgive the immense piles of sins of people, then why cant humans forgive each other for trivial mistakes that are nothing compared to what humans commit against the instructions of Allah. Moreover, these names also tell a person that if the Mightiest can be merciful and forgiving, then why cant the ones who have nothing in their power be forgiving and kind.
The Reward Of Forgiveness Is With Allah:
In Quran Allah Almighty says:
“The reward of the evil is the evil thereof, but whosoever forgives and makes amends, his reward is upon God.” (42:40)
This ayah is the best remedy for all the major problems of the world of today. What people do is not forgive and not make amends, as a result of which the schism between people increases and they ultimately turn against each other and make lives of each other difficult. Therefore, a Muslim must always take the first step in forgiving and as an outcome of it expect the reward from Allah Almighty. Forgiving like this will be difficult, but if a Muslim keeps an eye on the end reward that will come from the Sublime, then forgiveness becomes easy.
Forgiveness Begets Forgiveness From Allah:
If there is no motive that a person can find in forgiving the other, then the one thing that one can always think about is forgiveness that will come from Allah against the forgiveness that one gives to the other. In Quran, Allah says:
“Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen those in want, and those who have left their homes in Allah’s cause: let them forgive and overlook: do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving Most Merciful.” (24:22)
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Therefore, the least motive that a Muslim can find for forgiving other people is that Allah Almighty will forgive him or her in return. Ergo, if one does not do it for other people, then one should forgive for the sake of one’s own forgiveness.
Forgiveness Better Than Vain Charity:
In Quran Allah Almighty says:
Kind Speech and Forgiveness are Better than Charity “A kind and courteous word and forgiveness is (much) better than the charity that is followed by (such an emotional) abuse. Allah is free of all wants, and the most Forbearing.” (2:263)
From the ayah it is clear that being kind with someone or forgiving someone is much better than the vain charity one gives or the charity that is followed by emotional abuse. Therefore, if a Muslim does not want to give charity that might boost such emotions or is not in the condition of giving charity, then one must try forgiving others and being kind to them. It will definitely help and would stand as a good gesture in front of Allah Almighty.
A Muslim is to think better of Allah. No denying the fact that Allah is Mighty, Just and Wrathful, however, at the same time He is Merciful and Forgiving as well and these qualities of His easily supersede and overweigh the ones associated with wrath. Thus, by learning Quran a Muslim can get the Islamic concept of forgiveness, adopt it in their daily conduct and then pray to Allah Almighty for it as well.